Cardinal Law of Communication

          There is one cardinal rule of life that most of us often falter, be it at home, office, relationship, friendship and at many other walks of life, which have not been penned down here, we often talk about each other and not talk to each other. Let me put this cardinal rule of communication straight for you “Let’s talk to each other and not about each other”. It is the simplest thing but unfortunately least practiced. The moment you start discussing your relationship, it is the time, you have disturbed the equilibrium of the chemistry that your relationship shared. The more you discuss with others, more is the negativity creeping in, and faster the equilibrium tips off. Communication over an issue is like plugging a gap, through which all the negative energy could sweep in and corrode the age old relation or a friendship for that matter.

          In the present day scenario, we say, a mother-in-law can never be a mother and daughter–in-law can never be a daughter. But have we carefully examined the fact, that, both of them with the slightest of first opportunity start discussing their respective in-laws with their mother, daughter, friends and others, unknowingly attracting all the negative vibes in to their relation. Tell me one thing. Has any mother ever discussed her daughter with anyone and vise versa? The answer is a big NO. And hence there is no room for any kind of negativity in this mother-daughter relationship. The same relation turns out to be the weakest, when it comes to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relation, because they go discussing each other at every step with everyone possible. And do not make even a miniscule effort to follow the shortest route to communicate with each other.

         The amount of negative energy, one would draw towards oneself, around or into the personal life depends upon how frequently this cardinal rule of communication is flouted. Like the law of Gravitation, this law of communication is also a universal law. Irrespective of size, shape and weight, if a thing falls the law of gravitation applies itself.  Similarly the cardinal rule of communication is also applicable to all, be it a person, state or a country. Nations like India and Pakistan have fought many wars in past fifty years and still continue to wage low intensity conflict across the borders. Both these countries ever since independence have been flouting the cardinal rule of communication, instead of resorting to straight dialogues, both the nations can be heard loud discussing each others actions in UN, SAARC and various other summits. Before the agenda could be conceived for a successful dialogue process, it gets derailed over petty issues or under external provocation. On the other hand the countries like East and West Germany through dialogue paved way for German reunification over Berlin wall.          

          I am sure, if Nathu Ram Godse had walked upto Gandhi ji to communicate, his disbelief would have got arrested and Indian history would have had couple of more years with Baapu. The absence of communication in any form, in a relationship, is like devoiding a  body organ of essential blood supply, in the absence of  which, it is eventually bound to rot.  The fastest and easiest way to clear the air of doubt is to form a direct communication. After all “Bol ne mein kya jata hai".